Never Had a Boyfriend (Part 4)
By 巫垚
AI translated from the original Chinese.
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Ms. Y's life is work and, beyond that, family. Though she has occasionally thought about getting a boyfriend, the thought always passes as soon as it comes. In particular, she's always thinking about how to take care of her family, and fears a boyfriend would take up too much of the time she spends caring for them. So she isn't keen on dating and has been single since birth.
Again, let's look from the angle of 紅鸞 (Hong Luan) and 天喜 (Tian Xi) at why she has stayed single.
How 紅鸞 and 天喜 show up
- 天喜 sits in the 卯 Palace, clearly where the love pattern lies.
- 化祿 ● concentrate in the 卯 Palace, and 卯 is also a "land of romance." If she were a bit more proactive, getting a boyfriend wouldn't actually be hard.
- The 卯 Palace holds 武曲 (Wu Qu) and 七殺 (Qi Sha), both Metal. In love, the Metal nature governs decisiveness and toughness. So in life and work, Ms. Y is self-reliant, holding to the principle that relying on yourself beats relying on others.
- The 卯 Palace holds 地劫 (Di Jie), and 地空 (Di Kong) clashes in from the 未 Palace. This is the real reason Ms. Y doesn't easily fall in love. First, "七殺 with 空劫 loses its might": in the chart this pattern looks gentle but is in fact tough. Though she's amiable in love, she has her own bottom lines and principles and doesn't easily compromise. But the power of 空劫 has also made her miss several chances at love.
- The 未 Palace has 陀羅 (Tuo Luo) and the 酉 Palace has 擎羊 (Qing Yang); like 武曲 and 七殺 they are Metal, which also strengthens Ms. Y's independent stance in love.
In sum, Ms. Y isn't actually unwilling to fall in love. She doesn't lack suitors, but she always puts work first, and while observing whether a suitor is someone she could date, she easily spots flaws she can't accept, and the feelings gradually fade.
Conclusion
Having principles in love is right, but Ms. Y's refusal to accept any flaw she finds unacceptable also lowers the chance of a relationship. Pouring all her energy into work and caring for her family is another reason she doesn't easily start a relationship.
That said, this chart still has the blessing of 化祿 ●, and Ms. Y is still young. Given time, she'll still have a chance to meet a good partner.