Never Had a Boyfriend (Part 3)
By 巫垚
AI translated from the original Chinese.
Generated by Copilot
Mr. K has known since childhood that he likes men. He looks refined, keeps himself in good shape, speaks with ease, and graduated from an elite school, yet he has never been in a relationship, with either a man or a woman.
Whatever the gender, whenever it's about love, we always follow 紅鸞 (Hong Luan) and 天喜 (Tian Xi). The chart:
紅鸞 and 天喜
- 天機 (Tian Ji) and 巨門 (Ju Men) sit with 紅鸞, seeing 化權. So in choosing a partner, if he likes someone, he'll be very persistent and won't give up easily.
- 破軍 (Po Jun) is lord of the spouse; its stem 戊 makes 天機 become 化忌 ×. 天機, of the Southern Dipper stars, governs slowness and also thinking. So when confirming whether he truly likes someone, he keeps doubting himself, asking whether he really likes them.
- 地劫 (Di Jie) sits in the 酉 Palace and clashes with 紅鸞. Even when he has decided in his heart that he likes someone, he still acts indifferent, suppressing his feelings, so that facing someone he likes, he only ever thinks about it and lacks the courage to move forward.
- The 酉 Palace's stem 丁 also makes 巨門 become 化忌 ×. 巨門 governs darkness and secrets, so he hides his feelings deep and doesn't easily let anyone know.
In sum, when Mr. K meets someone he's drawn to, he keeps asking himself whether he truly likes them, and this confirmation period eats up a lot of time. Once he's sure, he suppresses his feelings and doesn't easily reveal them; yet he's very persistent in love, and once he's settled on someone, he doesn't easily change.
Conclusion
A reading can show a person's attitude toward and state in love, and Mr. K's suppression of and persistence in love make it hard for him to meet new people.
Fortunately, 紅鸞 and 天喜 have no evil patterns; only 地劫 dilutes his self-expression in love, so the chart actually isn't bad. To change things, all I can do is encourage Mr. K to take part in more social activities and, when he meets someone he's drawn to, to get closer and gradually express his feelings. In the end he can still find the right partner.