The Controlling Mother-in-Law

AI translated from the original Chinese.

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Yesterday we discussed "The Meddling Mother-in-Law," who quarrels with her family and with the neighbors, always arguing without end. Today, let's talk about a controlling mother-in-law.

Ms. Y also lives with her in-laws after marriage, but her mother-in-law is a compulsive neat freak who always feels that wherever there are people there's mess that needs cleaning. She even takes charge of Ms. Y's and her husband's bedroom, with no sense of respecting others' privacy. It troubles Ms. Y a great deal.

As yesterday, we follow the same routine: for family affairs look at 機月同梁 (Ji Yue Tong Liang), then bring in the mother-in-law's birth-year data.

機月同梁: family affairs

1. 天機 (Tian Ji) in 未, stem 乙, makes 太陰 (Tai Yin) become 化忌 ×.
2. 太陰 in 酉, stem 丁, makes 巨門 (Ju Men) become 化忌 ×.
3. 天同 (Tian Tong) and 天梁 (Tian Liang) are in 卯 and 丑 respectively, both with stem 辛, making 文昌 (Wen Chang) become 化忌 ×.

Taken together, 巨門 in 亥 is damaged layer upon layer by 化忌 ×. 巨門 governs "right and wrong," and reinforced by 昌曲 (Chang Qu), any trivial matter becomes a source of strife.

On the bright side, 巨門 isn't damaged by malefics, so at most the household is noisy with squabbles, and nothing serious will come of it.

The mother-in-law, born in a 丙申 year

1. The mother-in-law's stem in the 亥 Palace is 己, making 文曲 (Wen Qu) become 化忌 ×, triggering 巨門's image of strife. The mother-in-law is very detail-oriented, so she easily nags about household trivia.
2. The mother-in-law herself is 廉貞 (Lian Zhen) in 子, stem 庚, making 天同 become 化忌 ×, clashing with 巨門 from the 卯 Palace. 廉貞 easily feels pent up inside, and the mother-in-law's way of relieving it is "physical work" and "tidying the house." This is exactly the image of 天同 化忌 × being unable to sit still. Echoing 巨門, no wonder Ms. Y cries that living with her mother-in-law is too much.

On the bright side, the mother-in-law's 祿存 (Lu Cun) is in 巳, auspiciously transforming the 亥 Palace, so she isn't ill-intentioned. It's just her personality that won't let her rest, to the point that she won't stop until even Ms. Y's room is spotless.

Conclusion

This chart and yesterday's article both have problems with 巨門. In household matters, 巨門 is the star of "right and wrong" to begin with. But if there's no evil pattern, and just the damage from 昌曲, 巨門 is at most nagging and grumbling. If there is an evil pattern, then if at all possible, it's best to set up a small household elsewhere and keep some distance.