The Marriages of Tom Hanks
AI translated from the original Chinese.
On September 29 last month I had the good fortune, together with Ms. 宛志蘋 (Wan Chih-ping) of 《聲音形象力教練》 (Voice and Image Coach), to be interviewed by Captain Lu of 《好女人的情場攻略》 (A Good Woman's Guide to Love), talking about the love questions that have come up in readings over these three years. I think the topic of love can rest for now. So finally, let's discuss the marriages of another Hollywood star, Tom Hanks. (As for the next topic, I'm still thinking...)
Case Summary
Since this time we're focusing on romantic relationships, a brief summary of Tom Hanks's marriages will do.
Age 1: born 11:17, July 9, 1956, in Concord, California
Age 23: 1978, married Samantha Lewes
Age 31: 1986, reportedly fell for his current wife Rita Wilson while filming, and went public with the relationship that December.
Age 32: 1987, divorced Samantha Lewes (she died of bone cancer in 2002)
Age 33: 1988, married Rita Wilson, and they remain married
(Ages are counted in the East Asian way.)
What happened in the chart between Tom Hanks and his first wife Samantha Lewes that led to divorce? And what auspicious signs in the chart have kept his marriage to Rita Wilson going so long?
That's Tom Hanks's chart. Let's make a few transformations to turn it into a chart focused on love!
How Tom Hanks's 紅鸞 (Hong Luan) shows up
- In the 未 Palace, strong
- It sees 火星 (Huo Xing), and 鈴星 (Ling Xing) clashes from the three sides. Though no evil pattern forms, a malefic is a malefic, and there's bound to be some harm. In Dou Shu we often say the 火貪格 and 鈴貪格 are sudden-fortune patterns; naturally 天機 (Tian Ji), also a Wood star, can be read the same way.
- 3 化祿 concentrated on 紅鸞, together with 天機 seeing 火 and 鈴, trigger the sudden-fortune pattern. We can judge that Tom Hanks easily develops sudden feelings for ordinary friends and colleagues through everyday contact.
How his first wife Samantha Lewes shows up in the chart
Samantha Lewes's main star 七殺 (Qi Sha)
- Samantha Lewes was born in 1952; her main star is 貪狼 (Tan Lang), in the 戌 Palace.
- Reading Samantha's main star 貪狼 together with 貪狼's Spouse Palace, we see 庚 and 戊. 庚 makes 天同 (Tian Tong) become 化忌, and 戊 makes 天機 become 化忌. Both strike Tom Hanks's 紅鸞 palace.
- In Tom Hanks's 紅鸞 palace, Samantha's stem is 丁, with 巨門 (Ju Men) 化忌 clashing in again. The affinity looks shallow.
- 貪狼 in 戌 sees Samantha's own 陀羅 (Tuo Luo), and the three sides also see 空劫 (Kong Jie) and 擎羊 and 陀羅. Such a combination easily leads to thinking that can't stay in sync and clashing outlooks.
- 陀羅 is a malefic, but it isn't 擎羊, and it also sees 空劫. The divorce should have been quick and decisive, without dragging on and without vengeful resentment. An amicable parting, you could say.
Rita Wilson's main star 七殺
- Rita was born in the same year as Tom Hanks, so both have 七殺 as their main star, with exactly the same stems.
- Reading 七殺 together with 七殺's Spouse Palace, the stems are 庚 and 庚. Both 庚 make 天同 become 化忌, but they also make 太陽 (Tai Yang) become 化祿. 天同 化忌 clashes with 紅鸞 in 未 from the three sides, but 太陽 has a double 化祿, auspiciously transforming Rita's "husband star." This speaks of Rita giving her husband ample freedom and respect.
- The three sides and four directions of 七殺 see only 地空 (Di Kong) and 擎羊 (Qing Yang). Unlike Samantha, she isn't struck by so many malefics, so we don't speak of ill here; at most, of being apart more than together. But considering that actors are often away filming, being apart more than together is normal.
- Shifting Rita into the 紅鸞 star gives the stem 乙, which happens to make 天機 become 化祿, also triggering the sudden-fortune quality of "火星 + 天機." So over long contact, uncontrollable love easily springs up suddenly.
Comparing Samantha and Rita
Besides Samantha's own 貪狼 and 貪狼's Spouse Palace damaging 紅鸞, the 紅鸞 palace itself is also damaged by her stem 丁 through 巨門. Add the clash of malefics in the three sides and four directions of 貪狼, and the affinity can't easily last.
By comparison, Rita's 七殺 and 七殺's Spouse Palace strike 紅鸞 a little, but from the three sides, and also auspiciously transform 太陽, the husband star. So you can't say there are no problems, but the problems aren't big. Besides, there are fewer malefics in the three sides and four directions than for Samantha, and their thinking can stay more in sync.
Conclusion
Love has never been easy; breaking up and getting back together is common. If from the start we could decide from the chart whether to date someone based on how well suited they are, that would be wonderful. Unfortunately, in the moment we're always dazzled by love, throw ourselves into it heedlessly, and in the end part ways.
Even I, after more than twenty years of Dou Shu, often don't know what to do when it comes to love, torn between telling someone their partner is unsuitable and they shouldn't date, or letting them bravely try.
First, even if I advise against it, at the moment love arises, it's unlikely they'll take my words to heart.
Second, if I warn them off, might I also be depriving them of a life experience?
Talking about love has always been hard. In the end all I can say is: if the partner isn't terrible in every way, I think if you want to be together, go ahead. Even without a beautiful future, isn't it a kind of learning?