If Love Between Two Is Lasting, Why Must They Be Together Day and Night?
AI translated from the original Chinese.
In readings, love is always a focus: young people ask when they'll find someone, people of marrying age ask whether their partner is suitable for marriage, married people ask about their marriage. In truth, what matters most in bringing two people together is affinity; only after that can one look at whether they suit each other.
I once had a friend with no romantic experience who came to me every year and asked: "When will I have a girlfriend?" And every year I answered: "This year you probably will." He asked three years in a row, because no one ever showed up; and for three years I answered that someone might. In the fourth year he no longer wanted to ask, and that's when his girlfriend appeared. Very luckily, he married his first love and lives happily.
In readings, the question I dread most is "When will I have a girlfriend?" Because many people are born in the same hour; if the arrival of a spouse could be calculated, wouldn't everyone born at the same time find a partner at the same time? So in readings, the most I can say is "there's a chance," never "there will definitely be." For me, in matters of love, whether there is someone isn't what matters most; what matters most is how two people get along once they are together.
I once met a case where the couple loved each other very much but lived apart for work, reuniting once a week. Can this state of "one heart, living apart" be seen in a chart?
The subject's 夫妻宮 (Spouse Palace) is in 酉. Let's first discuss her marriage the traditional way:
The 酉 Palace (with its three sides and four directions: 巳, 丑, 卯)
- 酉 Palace: empty, with 左輔 (Zuo Fu) and 火星 (Huo Xing). Tradition says 左輔 or 右弼 in the Spouse Palace is bad, with a possible third party intruding.
- 卯 Palace: 太陽 (Tai Yang), 天梁 (Tian Liang), 地空 (Di Kong). If 太陽 represents the husband, 地空 means a partner is unlikely
- 巳 Palace: 右弼 (You Bi), 祿存 (Lu Cun). Tradition says 左輔 or 右弼 in the Spouse Palace is bad, with a possible third party intruding.
- 丑 Palace: 天魁 (Tian Kui). A spouse should be introduced by a male benefactor
Overall judgment: the subject won't easily find a partner, and even if she does, there may be an affair; best to be introduced by male relatives or friends.
But the judgment above doesn't match her reality, for two reasons:
- Would everyone born at the same time have such a marriage? Of course not.
- Whatever the zodiac sign of her husband, would a third party always break up the marriage? Of course not.
So when discussing a marriage, it's best to bring in both people's data to see a realistic picture. Let's transform the chart:
In this chart we can see the couple's relationship is harmonious.
The 卯 Palace:
- The subject's 卯 Palace, stem 乙: 天機 (Tian Ji) becomes 化祿.
- The husband's 卯 Palace, stem 辛: 巨門 (Ju Men) becomes 化祿.
Both husband and wife produce 化祿 on the 卯 Palace, so we can infer that both put effort into the marriage and that the relationship is solid.
But how do we see that the subject and her husband are apart more than together?
- The 酉 Palace, the Spouse Palace, is also the Travel Palace of 卯. The husband's stem 丁 makes 巨門 become 化忌, damaging the 卯 Palace, which also means the husband spends most of his time working away.
- The 戌 Palace, 破軍 (Po Jun), lord of the spouse: the husband's stem 戊 makes 天機 become 化忌, damaging the 卯 Palace. This also reflects how busy the husband's work is.
- The 地空 in the 卯 Palace takes effect, diluting the harm of the 化忌 into being apart more than together, without hurting the love between husband and wife.
During the consultation, the subject asked when she could live together with her husband instead of being apart. I said: "Living apart or together is really a personal choice. But if we must say from the chart when it's more likely, probably after you turn 45 you'll spend more time together."
Perhaps the client couldn't hide her disappointment at this answer, but at least she could still hold on to hope for a future together. Actually, even without a reading, during the consultation I could see how happy and close her family is, which is truly enviable. So I think "if love between two is lasting, why must they be together day and night?" is the best description of this happy family.