A Married Life Where Communication Is Hard
AI translated from the original Chinese.
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A marriage usually begins sweetly, but that doesn't guarantee lasting happiness. In marriage, beyond handling the daily necessities, what matters more is communicating with each other.
The union of marriage centers on 紅鸞 (Hong Luan) and 天喜 (Tian Xi), so that's where we'll begin our discussion.
Where the chart's pattern lies
化祿 ●
The 寅 Palace is the focus of 化祿. 貪狼 (Tan Lang) is the star of desire; seeing 空劫 (Kong Jie), in love it governs valuing the spiritual side. Whether two souls are in tune, whether they can communicate and connect deeply, is what Ms. L values most.
But 貪狼 in this palace is itself flanked by 化忌 ×; if 貪狼 is damaged by a Ji star, the relationship is hard to sustain. In the chart, the stem 癸 of the 亥 Palace directly damages 貪狼, and that palace happens to be held by 天同 (Tian Tong). 天同 is affectionate; if it feels betrayed in love, the two people's rapport and trust are used up at once.
化忌 ×
The 丑 Palace is the focus of 化忌. Sun and Moon share the palace. 太陽 (Tai Yang) is the husband star and 太陰 (Tai Yin) governs family life, so their force in married life is stronger. Yet this palace has no malefics damaging it, and it's blessed by 文昌 and 文曲 (Wen Chang, Wen Qu), 天魁 and 天鉞 (Tian Kui, Tian Yue), 左輔 and 右弼 (Zuo Fu, You Bi), and 祿存 (Lu Cun). It ought to do well, so why does a gap still arise in married life?
The main reason is the 化忌 on 昌曲 (Chang Qu) in the 丑 Palace. 昌曲 represent ideas and outlook, and also verbal communication. Even if the two manage their marriage peaceably, differing ideas and outlooks easily make them drift apart, until in time they simply stop communicating.
Conclusion
Of the three precepts of our school, one is never to advise people to divorce. When the chart shows signs that communication is impossible, all I can suggest is marriage counseling to untie the knots between them. If there's still no resolution, at least when it ends they can part peacefully and without regret.