Marriage Is No Child's Play

AI translated from the original Chinese.

Generated by Gemini

Marriage is a major life event, not child's play. One client was preparing to marry: both sets of parents had met, the formal proposal had been made, the wedding photos taken, the guest list drafted, and the deposit on the banquet hall paid. Then, with everything ready, his ex-girlfriend (let's call her EX) met a man, hit it off with him, and called off the engagement outright. Heartbroken, the subject had to announce that the wedding was cancelled.

The chart is as follows:

In the 夫妻宮 (Spouse Palace), 天機 (Tian Ji) and 地劫 (Di Jie) share the palace, which would generally be read as loneliness and late marriage. But 天機 in 子 is in a strong palace, so this 地劫 can probably only be read as somewhat unstable relationships. Besides, no malefic stars at all meet in the three sides and four directions of 子. Is it really so bad?

Let's reshape the chart into a suitable form:

For marriage, it is more fitting to look at 紅鸞 (Hong Luan). Let's focus on the 丁卯 Palace, where 紅鸞 sits.

The 丁卯 Palace (and its three sides and four directions: 乙亥, 辛未, 癸酉)

• 太陰 (Tai Yin): weak in 卯; 太陰 can mean giving up halfway
• 太陰 + 火星 (Huo Xing): the "Ten Evils" pattern; prone to meeting slippery, unreliable people
• 太陰 + 擎羊 (Qing Yang): the "people leave, money scatters" pattern; as the name says, the person runs off and the money is gone too
• The 丁卯 Palace: Fire Six Bureau, clashing with the Water of 太陰
• The 丁卯 Palace: 3 化祿 converge, which has a stabilizing effect on marriage

Overall judgment: longs for marriage, but is easily used by slippery people, so that the person leaves and the money is gone

The three sides and four directions of 丁卯: 乙亥, 辛未, 癸酉

• 辛未: 天梁 (Tian Liang), 天鉞 (Tian Yue). Suited to being introduced to partners by older women
• 癸酉: 天同 (Tian Tong), 文昌 (Wen Chang), 右弼 (You Bi), 咸池 (Xian Chi), 天喜 (Tian Xi). Gentle, considerate and romantic toward his girlfriend
• 乙亥: 太陽 (Tai Yang), 鈴星 (Ling Xing). 太陽 is also weak here, and it is the Ten Evils pattern; prone to meeting slippery people

Overall judgment: partners introduced by older women carry more affinity; he is gentle, considerate and romantic toward his girlfriend; partners he meets on his own are likely to be slippery.

What Actually Happened

The subject met EX through a female friend's introduction and dated her for many years. He picked her up and dropped her off at work, cared for her in every way, and rarely let her pay when they went out. He arranged special celebrations for every holiday and anniversary, and even handmade plush toys and desserts for her.

EX's financial sense was immature and she often lost money. The new man claimed a high income and skill at investing, so EX called off the engagement and fell into his arms. They broke up within a year. His income and investing prowess were probably just boasting.

After EX broke up with that man, she wanted to come back to the subject, even saying things like "No one but me will marry you." But the subject gently declined to reconcile. When EX needs company, he still offers some support over the phone, but there is no longer any real contact.

Marking EX's heavenly stems on the subject's chart:

In the chart, EX is represented by 廉貞 (Lian Zhen), in the 庚午 Palace. How does 廉貞 affect the subject?

The 庚午 Palace (with its three sides and four directions: 丙寅, 甲戌, 丙子), in chronological order:

• 丙寅: 天同 becomes 化祿, EX prepares to marry; 廉貞 becomes 化忌, EX wants to back out.
• 庚午: 太陽 becomes 化祿, EX prepares to marry; 天同 becomes 化忌, triggering the Ten Evils and "people leave, money scatters" patterns; EX backs out.
• 甲戌: 廉貞 becomes 化祿, EX throws herself into a new romance; 太陽 becomes 化忌, EX succeeds in breaking the engagement.
• 丙子: 天同 becomes 化祿, EX wants to reconcile, but spilled water can't be gathered back; 廉貞 becomes 化忌, EX sinks into regret.

In addition, the 庚午 Palace where 廉貞 sits meets 地空 (Di Kong) and 地劫 in its three sides and four directions, indicating EX's fickle, changeable mind.

Conclusion

Marriage is no child's play. Years of love went up in flames, yet even in his sorrow the subject goes on living actively. "Now that I'm on my own, I can go wherever I want, eat whatever I like without paying double. Life seems easy and relaxed." He said it as if unmoved, but I could see his loneliness, and in the end I could only sigh deeply for him.

Finally, the subject bears no grudges, rarely resents anyone, and is kind and optimistic by nature. Let me use this article to find him a friend: single women interested in him can leave a private message. 😂