How to Choose a Partner: A Husband with Emotional Problems
By 巫垚
AI translated from the original Chinese.
Generated by Microsoft Designer
In today's star-nature class we discussed Ms. H, whose husband has emotional problems. She wants to help but can't, and the marriage is in crisis. It made me think: if you could know before dating whether a partner suits you, you could cut the ties before giving your heart, and no tragedy would happen.
How do you choose a suitable partner? Finding the other person's zodiac sign in your chart is the most basic way to look.
The keys to marriage are 紅鸞 (Hong Luan) and 天喜 (Tian Xi). First, how do 紅鸞 and 天喜 show up?
What's wrong with 紅鸞 and 天喜?
- 紅鸞 sits with 破軍 (Po Jun); 破軍 is "lord of the spouse," so the good and ill in matchmaking are heightened.
- An old saying goes: "破軍 relies wholly on the cruelty of 擎羊 and 鈴星." In fact 火星 (Huo Xing) also has a negative effect on 破軍.
- The 午 Palace has the help of 化祿 ●, so all we can say is to choose a partner carefully. In this chart, certain zodiac signs bring partners who are impulsive and have trouble controlling themselves. The 午 Palace has the problem of 火星 with 破軍, so finding a partner born in a Horse year is very likely to cause problems.
- Taking 貪狼 (Tan Lang) in the 戌 Palace as the subject: 貪狼's three sides see 紅鸞, and the damage of 化忌 × is strong, so 貪狼 can also be treated as a key subject for marriage.
Taken together, 破軍 has a hidden worry, but as long as it isn't triggered, in choosing a partner there's still a chance of a happy, fulfilling marriage.
Her husband is a Horse, born in a 庚午 year. How does he relate to her?
- The husband was born in 庚午, so the 午 Palace matters a great deal.
- The 午 Palace holds 火星 and 破軍: the husband has a violent temper that's hard to control.
- The husband's stem in the 午 Palace is 壬, making 武曲 (Wu Qu) become 化忌 ×, damaging 貪狼 in the 戌 Palace and triggering exactly the worst spot in this chart. 武曲 represents money, meaning Ms. H's husband earns poorly, which, compared with Ms. H's more successful career, becomes a source of conflict.
- The husband's main star is 巨門 (Ju Men) in the 亥 Palace, with the stem 丁. 丁 makes 巨門 become 化忌 ×, and this 巨門 forms "巨火陀, the hanged-for-life pattern": a troubled career, talent unrecognized.
- The 亥 Palace's other stem is 癸, which makes 貪狼 become 化忌 ×, directly damaging the 紅鸞 palace, which is also the husband's 太歲 palace.
Taken together, Ms. H's husband happens to be a Horse, activating the 火星 in the 紅鸞 palace and setting off the whole chain of effects.
Conclusion
When a reading turns to marriage problems, it's really quite helpless. Our school's precept is "never advise people to divorce or break up," so with a chart like this, all I can do is suggest marriage counseling, or simply say "get along as best you can." After all, even an upright judge can't settle a family quarrel. We can only analyze the situation from the chart; whether to divorce is a personal choice, so we won't give any advice on it.